Being a Real Man

Put away childish things

I find that I need a reminder like this (video below) every day. Something to remind me to take life a bit more seriously sometimes. Stop acting like a child. So many of us “adults” these days just act like children our whole lives. It’s pathetic, really.

It’s mostly little things. Like not getting up when the alarm goes off. Children do that. Or like being unable to stop watching the last 10 minutes of some TV show I got sucked into when it’s already 5 minutes past my sons bedtime. Kids do stuff like that.

Or like not eating healthy. Playing on the computer when I’m not getting enough exercise. Falling asleep without praying at night. Children do stuff like that, too.

Being late to mass. Not taking my own and my family’s eternal salvation seriously enough to get to confession regularly. Getting distracted by luxury and toys when there is work left to be done.

Being selfish. Children do that, too.

A Man is disciplined. A child is not. A Man does what should be done even when he doesn’t want to. A child does not. A Man doesn’t make excuses or complain. A Man loves deeply. A Man is faithful. A Man is humble.

It doesn’t mean men always act like men. Men are not perfect. But a Man always takes seriously what God takes seriously. A Man always asks forgiveness when he’s done something wrong (and probably sometimes when he hasn’t :-)). And he quietly endures or casts off everything that does not work towards the fulfillment of his duty as Man.

I really enjoyed this video:

And if you are married, a Man takes his vows seriously and has some radical responsibilities, too.

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ArkCatholicGirl May 18, 2010 at 10:34 am

I don’t see a video there. Is that just me?

ArkCatholicGirl May 18, 2010 at 10:39 am

Nevermind…it came up after I posted the comment.

Timaay May 18, 2010 at 10:59 am

I’ve finally started being a Man. Quit chasing girls or any sexual activity since I’m not married and quit being a spendthrift. God is good and gracious…

Jeanette May 18, 2010 at 4:10 pm

That was amazing. It can remind us women to be the wives and mothers we are called to be also. Very moving.

Aaron B. May 18, 2010 at 8:21 pm

Thank you for this. I need to watch it every day too.

José June 2, 2010 at 7:39 pm

Very inspiring post, Matthew. Like Aaron, I need to watch this video frequently. Keep the good work!

José from Corrientes, Argentina

Ned March 16, 2011 at 6:47 pm

This is legit! I can’t see the video, could you repost or send it to me??

Matthew Warner March 16, 2011 at 10:07 pm

Ned – sorry about that, I updated the video link so it should be working now. Check it out, it’s very inspiring.


Marianne Semenoff March 17, 2011 at 11:20 am

Great video, thank you. It’d be nice to see one like it that’s directed to women. (even though I got a lot out of this one…) :)

guy February 17, 2012 at 4:42 pm

But how? This page doesn’t tell you how to change yourself, it only show why you should change yourself..

Matthew Warner August 3, 2012 at 8:21 am

guy – not sure if you’re Catholic or not. But, as an example, Catholicism gives us lots of concrete ways to transform ourselves and to become the people we were meant to become (saints). Additionally, part of that includes the lives of the saints…which is a great way to look and study some folks who struggled with the same kinds of things we do and overcame them with the help of God’s grace to be become shining lights and examples for us to learn from.

God bless you!

Tuyet August 3, 2012 at 5:12 am

Love the video. I am so happy to be married to a man of honor. (What woman would not want to? :) God Bless you and your beautiful family, keep up the good work!

Greetings from London

Matthew Warner August 3, 2012 at 8:22 am

Thank you, Tuyet! I really appreciate the comment and encouragement!

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